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Intro - WTH is Mad Milfy?
Intro - WTH is Mad Milfy?
 
 

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My body is a constant reminder of transformation on every level- physical, emotional, spiritual. And that there’s always room for growth, always room for change. The beauty in the female body is that there’s power to heal what’s been hurt and fix the things that are “broken”. It all starts with the mind (and spirit). Intentionality is everything! Like I always say, how we speak, how we think, how we eat ALL play a part in the cycle. If you could offer up a word or phrase to set an intention for today... drop it below! PS- mine is CHOICE 🖤 #madmilfypodcast #blackdoula #mamaglow #womenempowerment #divinefeminine #stretchmarks #mombod #baltimoredoula
I’m a DOULA (D.T.), in some ways I’m still in disbelief. It’s a little odd for me to say because since my traumatizing birth experience 4 years ago, I knew I was called to be a birth-worker. But I had so much self-doubt, I didn’t have faith that it would manifest. But not only did I become a Doula this weekend, I was given the opportunity to start over (again) as a better version of myself. • • • @glowmaven brought light to a lot of trauma that I’ve been holding in my womb. “Time to shed, again”. Healing ourselves is a constant act of self-love. As a Scorpio, I’m constantly in a state of “refresh”, of “start over”, of “reincarnation”. And it was no coincidence that in the midst of the Scorpio Full Moon this weekend and this battle of Reproductive rights- Doulaship chose me. THIS weekend of all weekends. At THIS particular time. And on top of that, I’m just learning that physically, the Scorpio rules the reproductive organs (thank you @jupiteraura). Literally ALL of the POWER I learned about women’s bodies this weekend, my sun sign rules! 🤯 • • • I’m still going through the motions. I had to go back to work today and push through- my mind flooded with thoughts and feelings from this weekend. I’m going to keep processing. I’m going to keep shedding. I’m going to keep learning. I’m going to keep healing. I can’t wait to pour my love and education into black and brown mamas. I have so much in me that I never knew was there. So again, thank you Latham. Abundant gratitude to you Mama 🖤 #madmilfy #mamaglow #reproductiverights #reproductivejustice #blackdoulas #birthdoula #doulalife
Can you imagine being locked in a room for 3 days with complete strangers? Well it happened 😂 Thanks to the Master Doula, Mama & Teacher @glowmaven for creating a space for women of all different walks of life to come together for our purpose; our life’s work. We become ONE this weekend. These women made room for me, made me feel safe, held space for me. So many tears, laughs and everything in between. I’m honestly lost for words to even describe the weekend. But I’m grateful to have done this with all 17 of you and honored to call you my sisters. WE ARE DOULAS!!!!!! @mamaglow class of May 19’🖤 Next up, level 2!!!
I was 20 when I was told I was pregnant (the first time). I was naive and irresponsible. When I (emphasis on I) made the choice that I would get an abortion, I was disappointed with myself for being in the position in the first place, but I knew I was in no position mentally, financially, etc. to be a child’s mother. Could I have “made it work”, possibly. But my mind was made up. It’s probably the first real decision I had made in my life. To this day it still haunts me- the trauma I experienced physically, the guilt that comes and goes, the cringe I get when I even think about it 9 years later. I made the selfish decision not to carry that child. Am I proud of it? No. But it was MY choice. How DARE the government “choose” what I get to do with my body?! Like @thisishowilook said, “My body is not your political playground”. We have to stay abreast of the shit that’s going on in this world. This “government” shit ain’t real, but we have to pay attention to this war on women. MEN too. We need your support. We need you to show up for us more than ever. I’m afraid. I’m even shaking writing this post. Not because I feel exposed but because I’m literally PETRIFIED of the unknown. Read the articles about that states that have already implemented the ban and limitations of abortion. Margaret Atwood prophesied this many years ago. It’s all good until a book or TV show becomes a reality. 📷: @nandihenderson #madmilfy #mybody #tbt #abortionban #heartbeatbill
WELP, that said, here’s some bomb ass black women & brands that I’ve supported (and/or have supported me), shopped their products or used their services. And you should too. We gotta keep $$ in the BLACK MARKET. It’s no excuse, it’s hella black women and black folks PERIODT that are here with quality products and services at our finger tips. Also, if I’m making suggestions, I stand by them 100%! There’s wayyyyy more, but this is some for you to start with 🖤 1. @donnasdish_ -Catering services in Philly and surrounding areas 2. @flow.thestudio- Yoga Studio in Baltimore, MD 3. @zeninajar- If you want to go from ashy to classy af & smell BOMB . (I’ve literally been gripped up and asked wtf I was wearing) 4. @playpits- 100% NATURAL deodorant for everyone in the family 5. @domeafavor__ - handmade custom crafts & gifts (nothing she can’t do) 6. @braidsbynuvo- BEST braider in Philly, thank me later 7. @theartistkitchen_ - (YouTube channel) Plant Based eats simplified for black folks especially mamas! Great for transitioning eaters! 8. @aurasalchemy/ @jupiteraura- Yogi, Spiritual Gangsta & Healer, Content Creator & Photog! (Woo, I’m out of breath) 9. @erynamelshopee- If you’re a T-shirt head like me AND she has lingerie that is mom-bod friendly 🤪 #madmilfy #blackbrands #blackwomenentrepreneurs #shopblack #supportblackowned #blackownedbusiness
It was around this time that I lost everything that was mine. My thoughts and feelings about things, my body, my identity... I remember when I first cut all my hair off (long before mamahood-chopping my hair off was always liberating for me). But after a while I kept my hair cut because that’s the only way he liked it. I couldn’t take a #2 in private cuz lil baby either wanted the boob or just wanted to take away he FEW moments of alone time I had with her tiny presence lol. New Motherhood is certainly not cookies and bubbles. It’s a job that you take blindly without direction, description or expectation. Your love gets spread thin like jelly on toast. None for you, more for everybody else. I can’t say it enough, how important to work toward reintegration after any thing new in life- birth, heartbreak, disappointment, failure... There’s power in restoration. But you have to know you deserve it and work toward it every day you’re filled with breath. How did you reclaim yourself after your life’s changes?🖤 #madmilfy #reclaimyourself #mamahood #motherhood #motherhoodIRL #momtruth #momtruths #blackmoms #blackmomsdaily #blackmomsblog #
Yesterday I was intentional about staying off IG most of the day to be present with the women that have raised me. It was fulfilling to be with them and have Kennedy around because what they’ve done for me, they’re doing for her to the 10th power. That feminine energy hit different yesterday. The alpha females that live in strength every day for the family showed up softer and gentler and it felt good to celebrate and be celebrated. I also thought about those that are triggered by the holiday (for a countless amount of reasons). Whether it be loss or the number of other complicated things, I had you in mind. After my bath, I thought about how grateful I am of the MANY women that have molded me and have endlessly helped me raise my daughter without a second thought. I’m blessed. If you are a woman, you are a mother (children or not). You’re taking care of SOMETHING or many things. And I’m proud of you 🖤🖤🖤 #madmilfy #mothersday #mothersday2019
I have a short neck, but I insist on wearing turtle necks... 🐢 #noneckshawty #madmilfy 📸: @hurricaneanni